How do you overcome fear?
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.” -Marianne Williamson
Fear is a natural yet powerful human emotion. It is an instinctual quality used to protect ourselves from imminent danger. While fears stem from real threats, they can also originate from fake, illusionary, imagined dangers. Fear starts early on in life and continues to heighten as we grow, unable to cope and manage emotions due to learned behaviors influenced by our environment. These learned behaviors (e.g. fear of spider, dark, separating from mom) cause stressors and anxiety that can interfere with normal daily life activities. Early on a caregiver can help alleviate these emotions by being receptive to a child’s feelings, understanding and present.
I had many fears😨 all throughout life up until adulthood. I feared death (e.g. loss of loved ones), failure (e.g. in school, work, relationships etc.), rejection, etc. I wanted to let go of these fears, but as much as I tried I was unable to do that on my own . I tried variety of strategies to overcome fear, but mindfulness was the only outlet that saved me.
Through the help of meditation 🍃 I learned that from the moment we are born we take pictures of everything in our lifetime and store those pictures in our mind. We have attachments to these pictures/ thoughts and because of that these cause fears, worries, stress, and anxiety. Think of that specific moment you felt fearful about a specific thing or situation. You are able to bring that moment up, however what we don’t realize is that it is just a picture, it is false. We imprint these pictures in our mind and perceive the world based on our thoughts.
The way to overcome fear is let go of these attachments we have.
Let’s meditate and restart together! ❤️
On a deepening winter night, I’m only at home now because of the corona.
Still, at this time of year, I remember making such a big fire and meditating before returning to New York after sweating and eating delicious fruits together on a farm in Florida.
Shall we throw all the useless thoughts that come to mind in the fire together?
Living in mindfulness 🧘allows you to go with the flow🍃.
I have always made decisions on impulse, without thinking and noticed my irrational decision-making lead to serious consequences. I tried to be mindful and make decisions mindfully , but my habits took control over me and I was back to square one. Think about the times you made impulsive decisions and stop to consciously think how you felt after, how others felt and assess the situation. From my personal experience after impulsive purchases that I did not need I felt guilty, upset, and angry due to increased financial debt, yet only providing momentary happiness. Also, I recall as a college student quitting my job without thinking because I did not want to receive an unsatisfactory critique. I was not conscious of the owners feelings and insensitive to how my sudden absence would affect their work. Impulsive decision making stems from our habits, insecurities, lack of confidence and emotional state (e.g. depression). It was difficult for me to stop these negative behaviors, until I learned about meditation. Meditation has been an outlet to help me feel centered, calm, and clear minded 🙏
Some things I learned from meditation:
1. Stress and anxiety are number one triggers in poor decision making. Being mindful and taking decisions mindfully is key to a happy and fulfilled life.
2. Meditation is learning to be consciously aware, focus on the present moment rather than dwelling on the past or imagining the future. “Our brains are wired to think, worry, remember, predict, plan, and regret.” – C. Naumburg Mindfulness asks us to swim with the tide of natures flow in finding our true self.
3. We all live mindlessly, unaware of our judging mind, constantly evaluating and comparing because it is easier to avoid and continue life on ‘autopilot.’ Through meditation I became more consciously aware on how to mindfully problem solve. For example, as opposed to erratic yelling towards siblings I have learned to accept and understand, which has helped form a stronger bond.
4. Being aware of our thoughts, feelings, surrounding environment without judgement allows you to portray these qualities on to others. You will notice a sudden change of perception in life and happiness with in. How we feel and how we carry our life impacts ourselves and others drastically. Let’s work together and make wholesome decisions.
Ultimately, seeing the world as infinite potential and endless possibility is effortless. There is a sense of relief. “Our life is shaped by our mind, for we become what we think.” – Buddha
Below a video provided clarifies mindfulness. ❤️
How to Live in the Moment
To me, there’s nothing better than this meditation. It’s something that everyone should do. Once I found that the problem was in me, I can change.
— Read on www.wisdomswebzine.com/blog/2020/12/17/meditation-taught-me-to-accept-the-world/