Loneliness is a symptom of modern times. In the Middle Ages relationships were less important because people’ s religious faith was much greater. A person’s relationship with the divine was more important than human relationships. With the decline in religious faith there is a greater feeling of loneliness and alienation. The philosopher Martin Heidegger said that what humans dread the most is nothingness. People fear being alone. They fear silence and emptiness. But solitude can be an opportunity for spiritual growth. It can bring you closer to God. Jesus was tested by being alone in the desert for forty days. Moses was alone on the mountain top for forty days. The philosopher Nietzsche, plagued by poor health and failures in love would take long solitary walks in the mountains or by the sea to restore his life. It also inspired him to write. The mathematician and philosopher Blaise Pascal said man’s unhappiness is due to his inability to sit alone in a quiet room for five minutes. Try sitting alone in a quiet place. Close your eyes and sit there silently for a few minutes. Sit outside on a quiet night and stare at the sky filled with stars. Open yourself up to the silence of the universe. Hear God’s voice in that silence. God speaks to us in our pain and loneliness.
Meditation can help cleanse your mind of negative thoughts related to loneliness. When your mind becomes clearer your consciousness will expand and you will be at one with the universe. When you feel God’s presence you will have more empathy and compassion for other people. Meditation will help you feel more connected and less alone. If you want to know how to deal with your loneliness, please check this out below:
Happiness is elusive. The more human beings pursue it the more it eludes us. The philosopher Immanuel Kant said people can pursue the horizon forever, but only small children think we can actually reach it. Pursuing happiness is like pursuing the horizon. The more we chase it the further it is from us.
The Buddha said that desire is the cause of all suffering. Today people desire wealth, success, power, and fame. None of these things seem to bring lasting happiness. Happiness is always fleeting. The Christian writer C.S. Lewis said “ when we moderns now look up to the stars, it is not to the firmament of angels looking kindly back, but out, endlessly out into the lonely void. “ People in the Middle Ages felt a sense of awe and enchantment at the vastness and mystery of the universe. Today with the decline in religious faith we have lost that sense of awe and enchantment. Science and technology have replaced religious faith in modern times. People have lost a sense of gratitude for being alive. Albert Einstein said “A calm and humble life will bring more happiness than the pursuit of success and the constant restlessness that comes with it. “.
Meditation helps calm your restless mind and resolves doubts and conflicts so that you will have a greater sense of peace and happiness. It will expand your consciousness so that you will have a sense of wonder and appreciation for each new day. With your expanded consciousness you will have a sense of gratitude for the miracle of life and the universe. Happiness is elusive. The more human beings pursue it the more it eludes us. The philosopher Immanuel Kant said people can pursue the horizon forever, but only small children think we can actually reach it. Pursuing happiness is like pursuing the horizon. The more we chase it the further it is from us.
The Buddha said that desire is the cause of all suffering. Today people desire wealth, success, power, and fame. None of these things seem to bring lasting happiness. Happiness is always fleeting. The Christian writer C.S. Lewis said “ when we moderns now look up to the stars, it is not to the firmament of angels looking kindly back, but out, endlessly out into the lonely void. “ People in the Middle Ages felt a sense of awe and enchantment at the vastness and mystery of the universe. Today with the decline in religious faith we have lost that sense of awe and enchantment. Science and technology have replaced religious faith in modern times. People have lost a sense of gratitude for being alive. Albert Einstein said “ a calm and humble life will bring more happiness than the pursuit of success and the constant restlessness that comes with it. “.
Meditation helps calm your restless mind and resolves doubts and conflicts so that you will have a greater sense of peace and happiness. It will expand your consciousness so that you will have a sense of wonder and appreciation for each new day. With your expanded consciousness you will have a sense of gratitude for the miracle of life and the universe.
Anger is a troubling emotion. The Buddha said holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Yet people hold on to anger for years. It is a very difficult emotion to let go of. I have struggled with anger for much of my life. Evil is a very real presence in the world, unfortunately it is not something we can control. The only thing we can control is how we react to events in our lives.
I have found exercise to be a very good form of release for my anger. It relieves the inner tension in myself so that the symptoms of my anger diminish. It might be helpful to meditate. When you meditate your mind slows and the angry thoughts diminish. Meditation also helps you to breathe more naturally. I also find it helps to distract my mind. If I read something or focus my mind on something else it helps me to cope.
We all suffer setbacks and disappointments in life. It is part of being human. Close friends will betray us. Relationships will end. The philosopher Immanuel Kant said that with much wisdom comes much grief. Hopefully we can learn to use life’s setbacks to gain in wisdom and maturity. So let’s all resolve to let go of anger in a healthy way, through meditation, exercise and other forms of release.
“Remembering wrong is like carrying a burden on the mind.” (Buddha)
Emotions are normal part of our lives, varying from positive to negative. We don’t like having these negative feelings (etc. sadness, anger, loneliness, fear, rejection) because they can be difficult and painful. Life has its ups and downs which is how we learn and grow from these hardships we face. How else would we understand, be humble, perceive the world if we didn’t have every emotion we feel? It is human nature, and it is our part to accept, but not to dwell on these emotions. What tends to happen is we dwell on these feelings which leads to overthinking, questioning your overall sense of personal worth, leading to low self-esteem.
As a child growing up in a strict, non affectionate household lead to many negative experiences of verbal and physical abuse. At a young age I inadvertently learned some coping strategies to detach myself physically and emotionally from the trauma, into a dreamlike state. While it was a useful defense mechanism, constant reliance led to anxiety, emotional numbness and lack of a sense of self identity.
Into my adulthood I maintained relationships with friends, attended gatherings, but I never felt comfortable in my skin. I was never able to accept praise because I believed I was being mocked and lied to by others since my critical self-judgment, overpowered my thoughts.
In turn, this affected my ability to form new relationships, trust others and form close bonds, due to the fear of getting hurt and fear of judgement. I continued my life suppressing emotions, unable to express myself in a healthy manner.
The feeling of inferiority takes over your life making it difficult to function or accomplish goals. All the defense coping mechanisms I utilized only presented with self-destruction. The constant comparing self to others, which was a learned behavior taught from my environment, did not enrich my life, yet exacerbate situations. As a timid young woman, I felt unworthy, lacked confidence, demonstrated fear of being assertive and the inability to share my thoughts at home and in the workplace for fear of rejection.
MASTERING the mind is key in the first step towards overcoming inferiority complex. Once you have gained an understanding of where these feelings derived, it is time to let go of all those attachments held on for many years. Daily we store many pictures in our mind that have stories with many emotions, but we never discard those attachments, yet we let it accumulate till there is no breaking point.
PRACTICING SELF-CARE to your mind, body, soul and doing things that you enjoy. We take care of everyone else in our life and we forget about ourselves. We do not need to feel guilty if we want to be alone, do something that provides inner fulfillment.
POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS practiced daily to others and self are very helpful. This may be a challenge for many since those with inferiority complex have difficulty giving and receiving praises, but there will be a noticeable difference with consistency.
BE THE BEST VERSION, surround yourself with positive, open minded people to help you be the best version of yourself. Being around others with uplifting energy boosts your spirits, seeking for change.
Self-reflection and awareness guided me towards the root of my insecurities and helped resolve tensions. Meditation guided me towards enlightenment and I finally feel FREE, at HOME , my happy place.
More on how to enlighten our mind be free from our insecurities, worries, fears.
To live a meaningful life it is necessary to abandon your desires and attachments to people and material possessions. The Buddha said that desire is the root of all suffering. Only when your mind is free of illusions can you live each day to the fullest. When your mind is emptied of false thoughts and illusions you will live with the infinite universe mind.
Meditation is the method we use to empty our minds of these illusions. In the past I looked for answers to the questions of life in philosophy, both eastern and western, the Bible and the Buddhist sutras. But it was not until I found meditation that I was able to live life to the fullest.
The philosopher Bertrand Russell said that when you contemplate the vastness of the universe you will feel small and insignificant, but your consciousness will expand. People live as slaves to their minds. It is through meditation that one is able to be free from the prison of their mind and live each day with greater clarity and awareness.
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“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.” -Marianne Williamson
Fear is a natural yet powerful human emotion. It is an instinctual quality used to protect ourselves from imminent danger. While fears stem from real threats, they can also originate from fake, illusionary, imagined dangers. Fear starts early on in life and continues to heighten as we grow, unable to cope and manage emotions due to learned behaviors influenced by our environment. These learned behaviors (e.g. fear of spider, dark, separating from mom) cause stressors and anxiety that can interfere with normal daily life activities. Early on a caregiver can help alleviate these emotions by being receptive to a child’s feelings, understanding and present.
I had many fears😨 all throughout life up until adulthood. I feared death (e.g. loss of loved ones), failure (e.g. in school, work, relationships etc.), rejection, etc. I wanted to let go of these fears, but as much as I tried I was unable to do that on my own . I tried variety of strategies to overcome fear, but mindfulness was the only outlet that saved me.
Through the help of meditation 🍃 I learned that from the moment we are born we take pictures of everything in our lifetime and store those pictures in our mind. We have attachments to these pictures/ thoughts and because of that these cause fears, worries, stress, and anxiety. Think of that specific moment you felt fearful about a specific thing or situation. You are able to bring that moment up, however what we don’t realize is that it is just a picture, it is false. We imprint these pictures in our mind and perceive the world based on our thoughts.
The way to overcome fear is let go of these attachments we have.
On a deepening winter night, I’m only at home now because of the corona. Still, at this time of year, I remember making such a big fire and meditating before returning to New York after sweating and eating delicious fruits together on a farm in Florida. Shall we throw all the useless thoughts that come to mind in the fire together?